WHY MEN MARRY BITCHES: EXPANDED NEW EDITION - A Guide for Women Who Are Too Nice

Firstly, in this book BITCH means Babe In Total Control Of Herself. Her previous book - Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl - A Woman's Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship is my favorite and most highly recommended book for women on dealing with men. Keeping us men on our toes. Giving us women that we find challenging, and interesting, and do not take for granted. Now onto WMMB. Men will test you, just as women test men. These tests serve a purpose. How you respond dictates the nature of the relationship, and whether get respected as the dreamgirl, or treated as a doormat. You teach people how to treat you. Sherry teaches you how to pass these tests. WMMB entertains, as you might expect from a standup comic. I had to put the book down several times to laugh. Most of her advice is gleaned from many interviews with men, and their experiences with women, and they tell it like it is, what made them decide to marry one person and pass on another. Really, it is our secret playbook. In fact, I got great ideas from this book. So, I recommend this book to men too. For men, marriage is the biggest financial and emotional decision of our life. If a man makes the wrong decision, and chooses the wrong woman, the financial and emotional consequences are dire. The right decision, gains him the benefits of an excellent partner and children and opportunities for adventure and bliss, and will inspire and propel him to far greater achievements than would otherwise be possible. Imagine how attractive being independent, emotionally secure, confident, and already fulfilled can make you, and how not being needy or dependent on him for your emotional well being could make you a compelling candidate for marriage. As you read this book, you will discover the common mistakes women make: the woman on a mission whose biological clock is ticking so loud you can actually hear it, perceiving the man as a vacancy filler, telegraphing commitment interest way too soon, the dreaded talk, the absolutely lethal -where do you see this relationship going question? Sherry's offers solid advice to keep the relation-ship from hitting the rocks, and to secure the glittering rock. What if the guy is not prepared to commit anyway, then you have the dilemma of losing a relationship or continuing with a guy who won't commit. Many guys will string you along indefinitely, because they can. The BEST advice in the book is how to initiate the conversation that will lead to commitment though it only offers one strategy, even if it is brilliant. It would certainly work without alienating. It would work on me, and could certainly work for you. Ideally, it would be best to have a few different approaches to pick from. I disagree on one thing. I don't think it is a sound strategy to avoid talking about marriage entirely, for a long time, so it won't come up on the relationship radar. If you don't bring it up it may never come up. Before you spend years with a guy wouldn't it be wiser to find out in advance what his attitude is? This could bring the denial: You never said anything about a commitment before. Another shortcoming I feel is it does not offer strategies for testing his true attitude on commitment, and decision making. Here's one idea. Ask a man how he feels about children. If he doesn't want to have them or like them, what does that mean? You have learned much from an indirect question. Other books I recommend are: Dr Phil's Love Smart:Find the one you want, fix the one you got has excellent advice, on getting the commitment,and the 80/20 rule. The Secret Psychology of how we fall in love by Dr Paul Dobransky has excellent advice on testing a man to see if he is commitment material, also on finding the right kind of man, using the women from Sex and the City as the four female archetypes, the queen, warrior, magician and lover to determine both your personality types. There is also a personality test you can take at [...]. So, I highly recommend this book, and good luck. I trust you find this helpful.

I first read "Why Men Love Bitches" before reading this, on the suggestion from a friend who swore by it (she followed it throughout the dating process with her now-husband, who, coincidentally, is a gorgeous man). On such a great recommendation, I had to at least read it and check it out. I won't go into great lengths about it, since this is a review of the second book, but it is an incredible read that will seriously change any nice girl's life!! Having loved the first book so much, and being that I do hope to get married someday soon, I went ahead and ordered the second book, this one. It was at least as good as Argov's first book, if not even better. First off, I need to address the basic idea behind this book (as well as her first), because I think there are probably a lot of women out there who will be put off by the title and dismiss it just for that. These books are not really about being what people typically think of for the term she uses - it is not about being mean, rude, spiteful, bitter, or any of those things. What it really is about is just loving yourself, maintaining your dignity and pride, living and loving your life, and how doing all of that will earn the respect of any man (as the author says and I do agree with, no man is going to marry a woman he does not respect). The book is brilliant because most women (myself included, in the past) believe that once they meet a man they are into, they need to put their lives on hold and make him their number one priority to keep him around. Ms. Argov advises the exact opposite, to keep living your life in a way that makes you happy, and that men will actually respond to that. That is basically what this book (as well as her first) is about - putting yourself first. Women are also made to believe that mindblowing sex (and the sooner, the better) is also important to "snagging" a man. Again, completely wrong, and this book instead stresses the importance of appealing to his sexual imagination, which basically means him being sexually attracted to you, but also not getting everything off the bat and instead "giving" yourself sexually in increments, so that you appeal to his imagination and he gets to enjoy the chase. I have to say though, even though the principles behind her advice are all great, I will not lie - some of the things you have to do, they're hard!! It's hard to not obsess when the man you like doesn't call for a few days (and he most likely will test you this way, because that's what they do - they test you to see how you'll react). It's hard not to ask why you haven't heard from him, where he was last night, is he seeing anyone else, etc. etc. It's also hard to not sleep with a man too soon that you are really attracted to (especially when he is trying to get you to). But if you can force yourself to stay disciplined, it WILL work. Now I am going to provide a personal testimonial. Not only do I know someone who has used Ms. Argov's advice to now be married to the man of her dreams, but I am currently dating someone that I have been using the exact principles advised in Argov's two books. I have only been out with this man six times now - still kind of early to know how it will end, so I can't tell you that, but I can tell you how well it's gone so far. Last night (my most recent date with this man) I went out with him and do you know what happened? I get to his place (it was my turn to go to him, I do NOT just go to him every time like I might have before discovering these books), and he had prepared a candlelight dinner for me. Prior to my arrival, he called to find out what kind of food I like/ don't like, he wouldn't let me help prepare it or clean up afterward. Sixth date, mind you - I know women who are married who have never had their husband prepare them any kind of dinner, let alone a romantic one. He also told me (before I left) how unbelievably attracted to me he was (not the first time either - I as well as others who have read this book know that part of that is because of me being somewhat "unattainable"), how he always has a good time with me, and how interesting he thinks I am - he said most women, he likes the kissing and all of that but after that he usually doesn't want them around, but that with me, he actually likes my company. My response? I just smiled, and said "Thanks. You know I always have fun spending time with you too" (others who have read these books know why "fun" is such an important word). I mean, the guy is practically gushing all over me - and not while trying to grope or score with me while saying all this (very critical fact). It's important to note that this man is sexy, successful, and could probably have just about any woman he wants. And I truly believe it is because I have been following the basic principles Argov presents in her book. I can also tell you in the past, when I did NOT do what is suggested in this book, things did not exactly work out. I was always that girl who tried too hard but got taken advantage of, who gave my heart and didn't get much back, who basically did all the work if it did get to the point of a relationship, or many times, before things got too serious, was told, "There's just something missing", etc. etc. So I am a total believer in Sherry Argov's books. I know I've written a lot but I want to make it clear to all of you how truly amazing this (and her other book) really is. This really is what to read to "convince the man of your dreams that you are the woman of his dreams". It works, it works, it works, it works, it works! I can't stress it enough. I hope every marriage-minded woman out there goes and reads this book because it truly changed my life. If there were a dating religion out there to follow, this would be the dating bible!!!

I think a lot of people don't care for this book because they don't pay attention to the subtitle on the cover: "A Guide for Women Who are Too Nice." If that doesn't sound like you this book might still be useful (especially the chapter on the tests men put women through), but this might just not be the book for you. In this book "bitch" means a woman with self-esteem and a happy lifestyle that she actively tends to. And because the bitch is happy and has self-esteem she knows what kind of behavior she will or will not accept from others and has the strength of character to walk away from anyone who tries to use or abuse her with feminine dignity. It does not mean acting like an a$$hole or using other people. Just want to clear that up. If you're the kind of woman who is constantly at a man's beck and call (he calls you 3 hours or less before he wants to see you for a "date", and the date is actually just a netflix and chill date at his place). Is afraid of voicing her opinion (a man asks you what kind of restaurant you want to go to and your go to response is "whatever you want sounds good, anything is alright with me.") Thinks cooking a man a gourmet meal (and afterwards having wild sex with him) in the first month of dating is a surefire way to get a man's love and respect this book is for you. To some, the woman I just described might sound too ridiculous to exist, but I've personally seen women who really are simply too nice, too fast with men and are honestly confused why their home cooked meal made for a man on the second date hasn't landed them a boyfriend/husband. While I didn't go to that extreme, I have personally been guilty of accepting lame dates that required no planning whatsoever at the last minute and being afraid to ever express a negative opinion of something lest I offend a man. More than any other book on dating this book helped me date with more self-esteem and boundaries. This is a very practical book for women who tend to get walked all over in dating and relationships. Whether it's due to low self-esteem, lack of boundaries, or an overarching need to please men at all costs this book gives you a good reality check. Many women think the fool-proof way to get love, respect, and commitment is to lavish attention and care on men very early on in the dating process. This book talks about how yes, men do want attention and care from women, but they want that attention and care from a woman of principles with a backbone. Men will happily have sex/take advantage of a 'yes woman,' but they rarely love those women and it's even more rare that they want any kind of long term committed relationship with those women. Women think being extra nice and agreeable about everything will get them love and commitment, but the reality is that being a push over means you will never get a man's respect. And if a man cannot respect you he certainly cannot love or commit to you in the way you probably want him to. I think this book is also invaluable because it talks about the tests men put women through. I'm not sure if all men test women, but I've observed the behavior described in this book in some of my friend's relationships so I know at least some men test women. Lots of books for men talk at length about the tests women put men through and very few books ever acknowledge that men test women just as much. It was seriously such a breath of fresh air seeing something not only call out the testing behavior of men, but also gives suggestions on how to handle it without being walked over or annoyed to death. Even women who aren't too nice can find these tests difficult to deal with which is why I'd still recommend checking this book out to any woman.

I am a single 30 year old female. I got this book out of curiosity since it was so highly rated and glad I did. It IS worth the read. Looking back at the relationships I have been in, good and bad, most (not all) of this book is dead on!!! CONS: I HOPE that the women who read this book don't believe everything they read and don't do everything she says or take it too literally. I know that if I did some of the things she suggested, any decent man would look at me like I'm crazy and tell me not to play games and just tell them what the heck is going on. They would think I was immature for not just talking to them. Through a lot of the book, whether it is comical or not, she too often refers to men as being lying manipulative jerks who test you and get away with as much as they can, for as long as they can. Instead she suggests you manipulate them? I'd be ticked as guy if my woman did some of the things she suggests. She seems to have just interviewed one type of man. Unfortunately some men DO like a woman who shuts up and does what she is told, and some DO like women who fight and create drama. She also takes things to the extreme. For example I don't believe men really need for you to act like virgin- just not a slut! And they aren't purposefully manipulating you or testing you- they are just inconsiderate and selfish. PROS: While you wouldn't guess it from the above, there are more pros than cons in this book. Argov uses great analogies and great quotes to drive her point home. She uses a simple format that easy to read and relate to. It is a solid reminder that women who are doormats do not achieve happiness. She doesn't really mean "bitch", she really means self-confident, fun, empowered, and independent woman. This is not a book that will be going to Goodwill. I am lending this to my female friends as soon as possible(single and married). There so many women who become doormats not realizing that they are reinforcing the behavior in some way. They just get sad or angry but nothing changes. This book is FAR better than He's Just Not That Into You, which had no solutions, just makes you feel bad. Argov gives real scenarios and examples and how to deal with them. She tells you what to say, and what not to say. Also, many of these principles can be applied outside romantic relationships as well. She uses a quote by Donald Trump, pointing out that we should speak up when appropriate anywhere and gain respect by doing so. I thought of my boss and co-workers. I am actually excited and motivated after reading this book to not put up with crap but to walk out when I have to. This book really solidifies that I need to work on my self-esteem (as do a lot of women). I think I will get a good book on that in order to reinforce what I learned in this book.

Has helped me so much in this dating world! Fun to read and easy to understand! Helped me to realize my worth! Highly recommended!

Wow - this is one of the most insightful and informative books I've read in a LONG time. Not only that, it's extremely entertaining and very hard to put down. I had to make myself stop reading just to get to bed on time. I think some of the negative reviews of this book are very unfair, and simply indicate the reviewers didn't even bother to read the beginning of the book where Argov makes it infinitely crystal clear what her intent was behind the title and what she's setting out to demonstrate in her book. Additionally, the book is very well organized into myths and principles that build nicely on each other as she progresses through the "dating"/relationship process. Her sense of humor makes her examples of men's behaviors hysterically funny. The analogy about the crack dealer had me howling out loud. I just couldn't stop laughing, and it's rare that a book makes me do that. So, for the humor alone, the book is well worth a read, but you get so much more from it. Argov made me realize some of the really stupid things I've done with my ex-s;how I played into their manipulations, and how I'd fallen into the mind-game traps that men play with women. And any idealist who thinks this doesn't happen needs to snap out of their fantasy world and pay better attention. It happens all the time, every time. Sometimes men aren't even fully aware of the games they play to push women's buttons and to find women's weak points. Yes - they DO do this. They are hard-wired to behave the way they do. When I look back at my failed relationships, I see that what Argove says happens, has all happened to me; I just didn't realize it at the time. Argov is so spot on when she illustrates the ways men goad women into revealing the chinks in their armour. I learned so much from this book. Can't wait to put her recommendations into practice. Even if no lasting relationship materializes, Argov just has excellent recommendations on how to respond appropriately to people so they'll always respect your integrity and dignity. And for that alone, this book is worth more than gold.

I wish I had read/known about this book years ago! It's hilarious, straight forward, informative, mind blowing, and true. I didn't purchase this book because I was trying to get a ring or catch the guy, I wanted to feel stronger/more confident, and know my worth and what I deserve. I can tell you, this book helped accomplish all of that and more. Sherry’s humor really makes it relatable, and the input from the men was eye opening in such a wonderful way. Reading this instantly gave me a confidence boost, and made me want to apply a lot of what I'd learned to my current relationship. I could tell things were getting too comfortable, and I could feel I was being taken for granted, and he wasn’t putting in as much effort as he had in the past. I started to back away and only be available 60-70% of the time (as Sherry stated) and within four days, there was a drastic change in his actions and attitude towards me. He started texting and calling more, trying to set up more dates, asking more about my day and trying to involve himself in my daily life. The topping on the cake that let me know this book really works, was when he sent me a text with a YouTube link to a song. The lyrics repeated, "You don't know what you've got till it's gone.” He then proceeded to tell me he couldn’t wait for our date that night. Empowering book that showed me I can put my foot down in a way that won’t push men away, but in a way that they will respect, and get their wheels turning. I think it is a must read, and I highly recommend it to anyone feeling stuck, or a little down. Sherry makes it such a fun read, I look forward to reading more books from her.

Sadly, most men need games. Males claim to not want a woman who plays games yet make those phone calls and be too available and the men have lost interest. It is no longer "fun". I learned a lot from this book and the other book the author wrote, "Why Men Marry Bitches." I wish I had this book when I was 20 years younger and would have saved a lot of heartache. Even with male friends, who are nothing but, I do not call them or ask them out. It is about being a lady with self-respect. How many "modern" women go from boyfriend to boyfriend wondering why nothing works when it is actually going from casual sexual relations to casual relations wondering why they are constantly left while they ask how their friends got good men. Many men claim they want equality yet when sex and availability is served on a platter, the men only want it for a short time. Most men do not want women reading these books because this goes way beyond the usual sort of books on how to get a man's interest re: sex tips and such. This book along with the sequel are based on a woman maintaining her self-respect in the world of dating. Dating is a game. The women who claim they do not want to play games are the same ones who wonder why the men they felt were promising for a relationship is gone after 6 weeks. I have done the chasing as a younger woman and calling the man I was interested in hoping he would not "forget" me. I look back and think how pathetic I must have looked and how I had to have been the butt of a man's jokes about this "dumb broad" who is after me. I love being a "bitch" as mentioned in the book and never have been treated better than in I had in the past. I read a review on the lady's first book, "Why Men Love Bitches," re: how it is terrible for us to read such things. The male reviewer knows the author is onto reality and the female admirers (who commented on his review) still have a lot to learn of reality. I wish more of my female friends and acquaintances would read this book. There would be less "drama" and hassles in their lives with the bad choices of being too sexually available and literally chasing men only to wonder why the men went back to their wives or ex-girlfriends 5 minutes after having sex. I am one of the "bitches" and am now treated with class.

La verdad me gustó más ésta versión que “por que los hombres aman a las cabronas”, es divertido y tan fácil de leer que lo terminé en un fin de semana. Está bueno pero lo recomiendo como complemento de Not Your Mother’s Rules

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Extremely truthful and insightful. Tells you what you need to hear rather than what you wanted to hear. There’s nothing more attractive than a woman who centers herself, is fun loving and comfortable in her own body. I’ve learned a lot and agreed with a lot in this book.

Very good book… must read !! Especially for younger adults , I wish I followed this advice ages ago. Thanks

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